New Year’s Maybes

Welcome to 2019! Is it just me or is there something shiny and exciting about a fresh start to a new year? Not knowing what lies ahead (good or bad) but forging on anyways to continue your story!

I feel like we’ve all become a little cynical… All over social media I’m seeing these kinds of memes:

But I refuse to give in to the negative expectations! We’ve got 365 days in 2019 to experience and if 2018 was any indicator for me, anything can happen!

While I’ve never been one to make New Year’s Resolutions – or any goals for that matter… On report cards I used to always get in trouble for leaving the “goals” section blank – I’ve decided to set some for 2019. But I’m calling them New Year’s Maybes instead. Because New Year’s Resolutions sounds too concrete and I just can’t make that sort of commitment!

So, here are my five New Year’s Maybes I’ve made for 2019!

01/Stay active

Of course, let’s start with the most obvious and commonly made one – being active. But this year I’ve decided to add a twist to it. Rather than “go to the gym” or “get fit” or “lose weight”, I am going to make it a goal to STAY active. This can be through the gym or walks at lunch or other activity, but I just owe it to myself to continue my healthy habits from 2018 in the new year.

My new YMCA membership and FitBit Charge 3 should help me achieve this goal! And, of course, my supportive husband.

02/Spoil myself more

I don’t mean all day, every day, but occasionally I need to put myself first and not feel guilty about it. I love to spoil other people, but when it comes to giving “self love” or “treat yo’self“, I end up thinking of a million reasons why I shouldn’t:

Yes, I could use that money to pay off some bills.

Yes, I could use this time to do something for someone else.

BUT… I need to remember myself sometimes, too.

I plan to do this through continuing to get eyelash extensions. I got them in September for the wedding and LOVED them and got fills up until December, but then panic-cancelled my last two scheduled fill appointments and let them fall out after I convinced myself I didn’t need them. But mascara just doesn’t have the same effect. It doesn’t make me feel as confident and is definitely not as easy. So I’ve had some reflecting time and decided this would be a goal to allow myself the treat of thinking of my own ‘wants’ more and to know I might not need the lashes, but I DESERVE them! Get ready for me, Kat!

03/Be more positive

My poor husband will be so glad this is on my list of goals. He experiences my negativity firsthand every day.

I am, more often than not, a pessimist in all situations. I notice everything that “goes wrong” and feel the need to talk about it. I am also a big one for gossiping and can often be harsh on my words. I am also a very competitive and jealous person and do not like sharing attention.

All these are negative qualities I possess that I am fully aware of and want to actively get rid of. I want to feel genuinely happy for other people and see the good in all situations.

I’m hoping my new bullet journal will help me with this, but I will also be spending more time doing my daily devotions and praying to God for this peace.

04/Admit needing help

This will probably be the toughest goal to try to achieve.

I have never been good at admitting that I need help because my pride gets in the way. I want to be able to do everything on my own and receive all of the praise for it in the end. But this just ends up making me stressed, frustrated and angry.

So whether it is a project at work or chores at home, I’m going to try to admit needing help, accept that it doesn’t mean I’m incompetent and ask for that assistance.

To be honest, I don’t know how I’m going to achieve this, I’m just going to try.

05/Plan more realistically

I have always had a problem of rushing through life stages.

As soon as I reach one, I’m looking forward to the next one. As soon as I became a teenager, I was wanting to be 16 to drive, then I was wanting to be 19 to drink, then graduation, then moving out, then an engagement, then a wedding… It’s like I don’t stop to smell the roses in each stage – I’m constantly in a competition with myself. And, in all honesty, with others around me. I want to be the first to get to this stage and that one.

So this year, as difficult as it will be, my goal is to slow down and plan realistically.

Yes, I want to move out of an apartment and into a house.

Yes, I want to start a family.

Yes, I want to try to own my own business.

But I have TIME. I am only 22 years old and have so much to be thankful for right now – I need to try to realize that.

Again, I don’t know how I’ll do this, but I’m sure as hell going to try.

Wish me luck with my New Year’s Maybes! And please, please, comment your maybes, goals, resolutions – whatever you call them – here!

Until next time,

Tiffany Spencer

2 thoughts on “New Year’s Maybes

  1. Ashley Stroud says:

    There are all very worthwhile maybes and inspiring. I really like your idea of maybes and think i am going to try that myself as i find i have the same problem as you and the work resolution makes it sound too harsh and I feel horrible about myself if i don’t reach the goal. Good luck and all the best. Happy new year to your family.

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